relations
We humans are - with some exceptions - no hermits. For a period of 4 million years we lived in primal hordes. Then for about 8000 years we lived in rural communities and many of us still do. Later we lived for about 2000 years in clans and many still do. The modern small family developed in a short time of perhaps 100 years and became a rule in modern societies.
So we are deeply imprinted on a life in community. But in which one and in which best?
What about other flexible community models well adapted for modern lifeworld?
The intersingles system is a defined very free relationship between
friendly singles....a modern form of primal horde ! Its energy is given
by empathy. This extreme strength is proved among men and even among many groups of animals especially in case of emergency.
First we take a look on existing kinds of relationship:
Rural communities
There are many kinds of rural communities existing all over the world. Depending on their level of appreciation, singles can be well integrated in the community or not. In case of general sympathy living in a village can be better than living in an anonymous town. But in case of disapproval life there can become a permanent horror.
Extended families
This type of community can be very protective and in the same moment confining. Sometimes an accepted strong member of the family slowly becomes a chief who wittingly or unwittingly starts to dominate all the others. In worst case he places so called "family honour" above all else.Often that means the end of real personal freedom for all the others.
The modern nuclear family
The relationship between parents and their children remains always close and important, independent of each behaviour and any social changes. This close relationship not any more applies automatically to other members of the extended family. Formerly a dissenter member finally bowed down to the hierarchy of the family. Nowadays he distances himself to stay free. Only affectionated family relationships endure.
Private mobility, especially occupational mobility and rising numbers of divorce complicate the unspoken promise of family care.
Friends
Schoolmates and youthful friends sometimes are the beginning of enduring friendship. Later they can be completed or replaced by communities like for sports, culture, politics, religions, citizen`s
initiatives, lifestyle etc.
Depending on their engagement in this kind of groups singles can have as much community as they like. In case of troubles they can change to another group without problem.
It is easy to form single-groups out of existing friends: "One knows each other" and it is another advantage to integrate friends representing different professions, ages and lifestyles.
Neighbours
A friendly neighbourhood is very important in the ups and downs of life and especially in case of emergency. It is quite an art to create a faithful and helpful relationship without touching the personal privacy too much.
There should always stay a certain distance and a respectful dealing.
Intimacies
All our recommendations recognize the sphere of privacy as valuable property.
Like everybody else, Singles wish to have intimacies. In reality they can feel very free in that field.There are different possible ways of encounter.
Private affairs stay secret. They are not subject of intersingles system.
Why intersingles
Without legitimation friends cannot act for helpless friends. They must fear objection of relations or authorities.
The emergency-card quickly can establish first clarity. Furthermore your circle of friends soon will develop own acception.i